Nastygrams

I received a nastygram from a woman I befriended and helped for many years. It blamed me for dysfunctionality, negativity, unhealthiness, and everything that was wrong with this so-called relationship. It is a wonder to me that people can be so convinced there is nothing wrong with them but that I am to blame for such a lot of strife that they are forced, for their own sake, to end the relationship with me. As I have said many times, evil is the unwillingness to examine one's own sin(s).

In accordance with my new policy for 2011, I don't care. This is one "relationship" I am not going to mourn. She was not a friend to me from the moment our "friendship" began. I am not to blame for her life, and she is hardly perfect. She is inflexible, argumentative, not exactly fun to be around, and not a companion in any sense of the word. She is not as mentally healthy as she thinks she is, and she herself is full of negativity, so she would do well to point the finger at herself and not at me. But that won't happen. People justify themselves even when wrong.

I felt sorry for her, and I realize that is no basis for a friendship or relationship of any kind. I tried more than I should have done to help her emotionally, financially, and every which way. On the other hand, she found it impossible to do even a slight favor for me without having a meltdown. It's her loss, not mine. And I don't care any longer. Since she is blameless and everything is my fault, she will never take the opportunity to examine her own behavior and attitudes. It's just easier, as it has been for many people in my life, to blame me than to take honest responsibility for oneself. Goodbye and good luck. I hope she gets what she is looking for, but I won't be part of the scenario. I learn, always too late, to stop spending energy, money, and time servicing others' needs. No good deed goes unpunished, but I don't even care about that. Dismissed. Next?