Impression Management

It amazes me how much time and effort some people spend on impression management, the process through which people try to control or manage the impressions or perceptions that other people form of them. It is both a goal-directed conscious and perhaps an unconscious attempt to influence others, and it usually results in shameless self-aggrandizement or self-promotion, most often at the expense of truth and authenticity. Thus, it is a sad and somewhat pitiable pursuit.

There are those who always appear to be happy, successful, and materially well off, no matter what is actually going on in their lives. They try to display only their good qualities and achievements (and brag about their material possessions, who they know, or where they've been) because they think others will then like them and not see them as inadequate and imperfect human beings.

It doesn't take much analysis to figure out that this constantly displayed image of "happiness" and "success" and "materiality" is not authentic or even remotely true. Rather than risk being seen as ordinary humans with faults, foibles, and unwanted character and personality traits, mythic prevarications seem to be their preferred way to impress others, gain respect (and awe), demand attention, and even instigate jealousy, envy, or resentment. Look at me! I'm SOMEbody! I have things you don't have! I'm all that and a bag of chips! Don't you wish you were more like ME?

It has been said that people talk (or write) for two reasons: To communicate information or to gain sympathy. I think there is a third reason: To impress others.

As Lewis Black has said, "The political parties in this country are a bowl of shit looking in the mirror." The same can be said of impression managers. Anyone who is trying to impress you is already a liar.